Feeling I am not good enough? Read this
Written on 15th June 2025
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Life Update
I nailed the talk about personal branding, and to my surprise people walked upto me and said it was inspiring.
Crazy tired this weekend. Had gone to Dublin to watch Samay Raina live and catchup with someone who gave a talk alongside me.
And the big update, for which I am very grateful is running into some of you guys who met me at the store, or yelled at me across the street telling me about how much you loved my content. This means a lot to me. I am very grateful having built this genuine audience.
Got myself a Kindle - currently reading “Too good to be true” it’s my first fiction so no judgements here.
Sneak pic from the talk
Today’s issue will be about how to improve internal Communication skills. If the thought of “I am not good enough”, “All bad things happen to me”, “Why would any opportunity come to me” has crossed your mind then read until the end.
Okay, so here’s the exact 4-step process I came across and have been following since whenever I feel “I am not good enough”
Step 1: Drop the Truth Bombs (aka Self-Acceptance)
The first step is radical honesty. Brutal, even. Whatever it is accept it.
Are you a procrastinator? Too self-conscious? Lazy? Introverted? Good call it out. Write it down. Own it.
Sit with this tag which you have imposed on yourself. Let the guilt haunt you. Let it sting really bad. Let it make you uncomfortable. That discomfort is a signal. A wake-up call. Stay with it long enough, and you’ll start to want to change.
Step 2: Make a Sharp Mental Correction
Once you’ve faced the truth, it’s time to rewire.
Tell yourself That version of me? Dead. From this moment on, I don’t associate with being a procrastinator or a victim. I am not lazy. I am not stuck.
While at it remove emotional dependency. Don’t do something just because you’re hyped or motivated. Because the minute that emotion fades, your actions will disappear with it.
Like the time I punched too hard during a kickboxing session because I was pissed and boom, injury. Emotion-driven action is short-term and has always led to misery at least for me. Identity-driven action is forever. And it’s about to change from being a “Procrastinator” to “Achiever”
Step 3: Give Your Brain Proof (Non-Negotiables)
This is where most people mess up. They write affirmations, but they never prove them. So instead, give your brain real, tangible evidence.
Set 2/3 daily non-negotiables. Small wins that align with the new version of you.
Eg: For me it is wake up, do stretches have some breakfast and straight jump to work.
Another personal example, today I had to:
1. Script + Shoot a Youtube video.
2. Write this newsletter.
3. Shoot six Instagram reels.
At 2 PM, I didn’t want to do any of it. But I used the 3-2-1 model. I literally said, 3…2…1… go. Got up, made the coffee, and sat down to work. One action led to another. Before I knew it, the newsletter you’re reading was done. Maybe late, but done.
Step 4: Give Yourself Credit
If you showed up for yourself, reward it.
Write it down in your journal. Tell your brain, “See? We did it. I’m proud of you.” Or allow yourself a guilt-free episode on Netflix or a 20min doomscrolling session not as an escape, but as a reward. There’s a difference between the two.
This is how you reinforce the identity. You start to believe I do hard things. I show up. I win.
Bonus: Map the Loop That Keeps You Stuck
One journaling prompt I swear by What is the loop that’s holding me back?
For me, it often starts the moment I pick up my phone. Wake up → Instagram → dopamine hit → crash → zero momentum. That’s my Path A the path to self-sabotage.
Now I’ve defined Path B:
Wake up → wash face → make coffee → sit at desk → work for 2 hours → reward. That’s my new pattern. That’s what gets me results.
Once you define both paths clearly, it becomes easier to switch when you catch yourself slipping. Awareness will create control.
I know this was a shorter one. But I hope it landed. Self-Confidence is not something you wait for. It’s something you build. Day by day. Win by win. Took me almost 25 years minus 17 years (of me being a kid fooling around)
And if you’re stuck in your loop right now try the 3-2-1 model. You’re one action away from changing the narrative. Trust me.
And yes reward yourself, I repeat
REWARD YOURSELF
If you’ve read till here, thank you.
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